Ask yourself this simple question to help ground your intentions, and elevate your relationships.

How language & timing are important for working with the shadows in power exchange.

FLR is an abbreviation for Female Led Relationship. It is a style of power exchange where traditional roles in a cis/het household are...

Intimacy is tough...and scary. Intimacy requires vulnerability, and that takes courage. We have not been brought up in a culture that...

Thinking about this today as I have to remind another long-standing client about my communication protocols… Since I work in a legally...

To surrender is to trust...we can't let go without it. And surrender, for those who have experienced it, is a powerful pull. Surrender...

Sexuality is fluid… It changes over the course of our lifetime. Humans are sexual creatures by nature, even if our experiences of it...

There is an art in being able to slow down, and pay attention to the subtleties...an art, and an education. I was thinking about this...

Some things you only learn by experience. Some things have to be lived to be understood. Life is full of these lessons… So is love… I...

Author note: I started writing this the day after an encounter, but didn't have time to finish it until a few days later... Forgive the...

*this post was updated from it's original version for application to much broader context then when I at the time I first wrote it on my...

What do you think about after? After the secret encounter, with that special someone who currently holds your attention…  Besides the...

I am a huge (make that YUGE! Bigly!! lol) advocate of embracing our inner child.  So often we are taught to put away certain parts of...

There is a beautiful art to creating intimacy.  Each new relationship is like a fresh canvas, with no two paintings looking alike.  The...

I was having a conversation with one of my best civie girlfriends last night discussing how I felt it was important, ethically, to be...

Oh sweet pulse Racing through my body Fueling every cell Every nerve To engage in this moment To open myself and accept Is to honor that...

I like to draw from nature, and everyday imagery, to help paint the picture of bigger concepts. Oceans, rivers, trees, animals…phases of...

I had a spa day lined up yesterday, and got a call first thing in the morning that my new favorite massage therapist would be out sick. ...

I got turned on to therapeutic massage early in life…like at 19.  A friend recommended this amazing therapist who came to the restaurant...

Ass up, face down… A thin layer of sweat mixes with the lotion soaked into my skin… His hand starts at the top of my hump slowly sliding...